To those who never write back…

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(Dear T, I promised you I’d make a post on that delicate subject…!)

What’s wrong with you people?

Don’t you know that when you receive a message, you’re supposed to answer back? That’s a minimum required from any basic education. When you were a kid, didn’t your parents tell you to reply to someone saying “Hello” to you? Or to write a “Thank you” note whenever you’d receive a gift? Or to call back someone who has been sending you flowers or a post card? Or is that that you’ve been raised-up with the pigs?

In our society and century, where letters have been supplanted by emails and e-cards, it just works the same. With that little difference, now you can’t claim lacking the means to ANSWER: phone, cell phone, sms, instant messenging, chats, voice messages, etc. We are more than enough supplied with communication tools. And it’s not either a problem of where you are because even in the tiniest city in the world, or in a bombarded country, or in a lost one, you’ll find a type of connectivity.

Is it then that you don’t care about the person who is expecting YOUR answer? Is that a reason good enough? Don’t you answer back to your debitors -people with whom you evidently have no cordial/personal/emotional ties whatsoever- like the phone company reminding you to pay your bill? Or to your landlord who is waiting for his/her monthly rental? Oh, of course, it’s so unpleasant to come back home after a long day of work and finding out that your electricity has been cut out because you forgot to wire transfer your payment. Is it that you need also a threat to do your costless duty in writing back to people who aren’t strangers?

You don’t have time? I pity you if that’s the subterfuge you use. If you’re so busy, how do you take the time to go urinate? Yes, urinate! Because that’s the exact same amount of time you need (including washing and drying your hands, giving yourself a look in the mirror, opening the door, walking the corridor, and sit back your ass at your office desk) to give at least a first indication that you’ve well received the message and that you’ll be working on a full reply (if you prefer to take more time to jot it down): “Sorry, but I’m very busy these days. However, I promise you to answer your email very soon. Take care/I miss you/Love”. That took me 30 seconds to type in, including erasing and rewriting words. “Honey, I can’t answer you right now. Will talk to you later. Love you”. That would take what, 50 seconds if you decide to use your sms device on your mobile phone?

Now what, you need some time to think over before making a comment? Then, just say so! You think it’s a delicate subject and you’re not in position to give any kind of advice? Just say so! You’re seriously feeling harrassed by this person sending you 100 messages a day? That’s probably because you did not answer back!!! Then, just give her/him a clear cut damn response! You don’t share the feelings someone has towards you and you don’t know how to tell him/her?Even giving the worst and pathetical excuse to say diplomatically (or not) “no” is still far better than letting a heart craving and wandering in silence, frustration and sadness. You’ve been lying so heavily that you’re trapped in your own argumentation? Why, then, wouldn’t you try being honest once? You could be surprised by the result. Plus, you’d give back freedom to an inconsolable heart and could win forgiveness.

How can you believe you’ll inforge respect from others if you don’t show any yourself? When you send a message yourself, don’t you count on a feedback?

And even if you’ve been fooling around, everyone deserves a return. Because any game/scenario/story/movie has an ending word. And if you don’t give it, you’re just part of this bunch of cowards and hypocrites of the worst kind.

Letting someone wait, long for, worry, wonder, over-think, hope (when there’s nothing to hope for), is just inhuman and crual.

You want to feel you’ve been making your day worthwile? Put aside your f**king pride, fear, insecurity or whatever sentiment is blocking you, bring together what is left of your guts (if you have any) and WRITE BACK to those who are expecting a sign from you!

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